Do you hit a mental brick wall at some point in the day because you’re so tired that you just can’t summon up enough energy to carry on?
- Or do you feel so frazzled and lacking in patience that you’re about to shout at your kids when you know there’s probably a better way to handle the situation?
- Or, do you feel like screaming at the top of your voice that you want some alone time but instead your kids are clinging to you and won’t stop asking for things or demanding your attention.
Before you lose the plot entirely, or for times when you need a shoulder to cry on or some encouraging words to show you that you CAN do this, remember these 5 quick ways to motivate, encourage and help an overwhelmed Mum when she can’t take any more.
We’ve all been there I think.
How many of you have had moments when you just can’t carry on for the rest of the day?
- Feeling desperate, overwhelmed, too much going on, too much to do
- You just need a break, a change of scene, some time by yourself, 12 hours of uninterrupted sleep
- But you just can’t seem to find the time, get some space, there’s no-one else you can call on to give you a hand and you’re ready to lose it…
Don’t panic! Be reassured that you’re not the only one who feels like this.
And definitely don’t feel that you’ve got no way out and this is just what motherhood is supposed to be like!
Here’s some quick-fix solutions that will help restore your sanity, at least until the kids go to bed, and help you make it through the rest of the day.
5 WAYS TO ENCOURAGE AND HELP AN OVERWHELMED MUM
#1 Remind yourself that no-one is perfect, but you’re doing the best job you can
Don’t get hung up on what you should have done better or worry about failing your kids and that you’re not a good enough parent.
Your kids love you no matter what and as long as you try your best then that’s all that anyone can ask, even your kids.
I’ve written a whole blog post on why you should seek progress not perfection, so when you’ve got time and feel like it, please have a read.
#2 Just get out of the house!
They say that a change of scene is as good as a break so grab the kids and just get outside.
Unless it’s torrential rain (and we all struggle when it’s raining hard and being stuck indoors with the kids for too long) you can put on some appropriate clothing for the weather and just get going. The kids can be strapped into a buggy, bring a football, scooter, bike – it doesn’t matter just as long as you get out of the house for a while.
How long is up to you, but seeing something other than just your usual four walls and feeling the wind, even the rain or snow, on your face can be invigorating, gets the blood pumping and changes your perspective on your emotions. The added bonus, of course, is that the kids might get worn out in the process!
#3 Take 10 minutes for yourself
Don’t underestimate the power of a 10-minute sit down with a cup of tea or coffee.
Treat the kids to a few minutes in front of a favourite TV programme or some other screen time. Don’t worry about this making you a bad parent for employing an electronic baby-sitter. This is purely for you to recharge your batteries and remember that it will make you a better mum than how you’d be without it.
You don’t need to be too ambitious and attempt to read a book as well, but just pop the kettle on, make a hot drink, sit down and enjoy it. Don’t be tempted to try to do anything else apart from sit down and savour the taste.
Enjoy relaxing, let your mind wander, come up with a plan of what you’re going to do when you’ve finished your tea and how you’re going to handle the rest of the day.
#4 Turn up the music, sing and dance
You can do this one with the kids. It will just change the pace of the day and give you a buzz.
Your kids might not expect it and you may be the coolest mum on the planet (especially if you know all the lyrics).
Music and movement has an amazing effect on the body and the mind so give it a go and feel the endorphins flow!
#5 Make a list of 5 things that you are grateful for in your life and stick it on your fridge
This is always a good way of getting some perspective back and for reminding you how lucky you actually are. It’s so easy to lose sight of the bigger picture when we’re feeling momentarily overwhelmed and can’t think straight and that’s not to belittle how bad we’re feeling right now.
Don’t overthink what you write on the list, just put down the first things that come to mind and really let them sink in as you write them. Perhaps use a colourful kids marker to make it jump out at you!
It’s very difficult to have a bad day or let negative emotions take over when you realise that you already have so much to be grateful for.
CONSIDER MAKING SOME BIGGER CHANGES
These are 5 quick ways to get you back on track when everything’s gotten on top of you. They will help you in the here and now.
But, perhaps in the longer term you could start to think about other ways to make your life simpler and easier.
- start to get control over your home by simplifying your clutter and making it quicker to do the housework
- declutter some of your stuff so that there’s less stuff for you to clear up and tidy away
- create more time for yourself by simplifying your calendar and prioritising what’s important to you and your family
- establish routines which mean that your home runs smoothly even when life is busy and chaotic
Want to take action against the chaos and overwhelm?
Here are some links to other resources and blog posts which I’ve written that might help you.