5 REASONS WHY KIND WORDS MATTER
Here are some reasons why it’s important to ask yourself the question ‘how do you talk to yourself’ and why kind words matter.
#1 They infuse intention
Choosing your words carefully sets your intention for how you hope those words are going to be received and the result you trust they’ll have. Choosing your words deliberately and carefully will have more impact than just a string of words with no energy behind them.
In summary, if you want something done (either by you or someone else), you’re much more likely to get them done if you ask in a nice way rather than an angry-barking-orders kind of way. The energy is different and ultimately the result will reflect that.
#2 We all need forgiveness
We’re human, we get things wrong sometimes. Instead of beating yourself up because you did something wrong, be kind to yourself like you probably would be to someone else.
Forgive yourself for making a mistake or forgetting something. Does it really matter in the long run and wouldn’t it be better to learn from it, rather than chastising yourself for it?
#3 Self-love is vital
We speak kind words to others because it’s part of our love language. We show we care about the feelings of others when we choose our words carefully. We generally try to think about them before we say them.
Practice self-love on yourself because you need love too. You’re not a machine and you’re not invincible. You’re emotional, soulful and complex.
Love yourself and you have much more capability and resources to love others.
#4 Setting an example
If you’re always putting yourself or others down, hyper-critical and negative then the people in our lives, especially our kids, pick up on that.
Be supportive, encouraging, give constructive criticism when it’s due, but avoid harsh words that don’t help or serve anyone.
#5 Inspiring positive action
As Jen Sincero writes in her book You Are A Badass, “Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits and our habits become our realities.”
Negative, mean, inward-looking words become the reality of our life. That’s not the focused, intentional, fun-filled, inspiring life that I want for myself or my family.